So I know I am often late to the party… it’s not because I don’t want to be there but sometimes I take the scenic route. That’s how I feel about queer artist Kelela and her song “Bank Head”
This is not new by any stretch of the imagination (it came out in 2013) but I heard it just a while ago on set for the first time. I didn’t know who sang it or even the name but it was a vibe that my spirit needed. A lightning speed download of Shazam later (which I didn’t even know was still around) and I was on it. Ever since I have listened to it no less that 50 times, each time vibing like it is brand new.
Chocolate City born, second-generation Ethiopian American, Kelela who was featured on Solange’s Scales, is the epitome of dope black queer everythingness. Her beauty alone is stark and stunning. Hard stop. But once I fell into the rabbit hole that is Al Gore’s internet, I realized her voice was strong and impactful even outside of the studio. She speaks vulnerably and honestly about her experiences in life, love and the black experience. *deep gutteral sigh*
When I close my eyes and hear this song, I picture a dark club where everyone is dancing in what seems like a blur except for me and HER. Lasers of different colors cascade over our glistening black bodies as we move slowly to the drop beat… yeah it is one of those songs. Sexuality in plain sight until… as the song goes “time goes by”
Tiffany. Tiffany. Tiffany. Where have you been all my life?
* head shaking and mouth pursed *
You just spoke life into my whole existence… four years after this song released.
Cali native, Tiffany Gouché is a legit musical phenom. She has worked with a little bit of everyone from Ty Dolla $ign to Jill Scott to mutha Lauryn Hill.
And if you know you know her, but don’t know why you know her, she was a part of the Black and Sexy TV webseries back in the day as well.
But that is all very 2010s, let’s get into now.
When I started listening to this song today…and let the record show I have listened to it twice, I was shooketh. The visuals and movement took me to a place I needed to be. I thoroughly enjoyed the dance homage to the ORIGINAL She’s Got to Have It (intentional or not) that had me grooving at my desk.
The message was timeless. Haven’t we all had that friend that we know is just a friend… but you want to tell your fantasies to? Just me? shrugs
Today I looked at the calendar and realized that in 20 days your girl will be celebrating her 28th birthday… for the 9th time. Wow how time flies.
For those who know me in the “real world”, since 2015, I have been happy and blessed to incorporate social gifting into my birthday fun.
One part party and one part cause, I invited friends to my annual birthday kickbacks, where I provided all the drinks and food. The only thing that I asked was for people to bring items for us to compile and distribute to the local homeless community. The response was amazing. I am blessed to have friends that jumped on the call to action. Year after year, the bags got bigger and they were still consistently filled.
Well I have written posts on here while all over the country, but today is definitely a first. I am coming to you live and in color from my… bathroom. Yeah fellas, this might not be the post for you because today I am writing about Yoni Steaming. Yes it is exactly what you think it is.
First things first, let’s discuss what yoni steaming is. Yoni steaming, which is also called vagina steaming, is kind of like a facial for your vagina. While you are sitting on a herb filled pot of hot (but not boiling) water, the steam rises through your lady parts and gives it a little pick me up. The herbs tone and rejuvenate your vajajay inside and out.
For those of you that are fathers, this is your day. Those of you that are spending it with your fathers, I am so happy for you. And for those of us who don’t have our fathers, I am wishing you peace and comfort. I know I recently went to my father’s grave for the first time in like 10 years. It was a surreal experience. But that is a story for another day.
Today I am sharing with you the bougiest thing that I have ever purchased… on Amazon. It isn’t even expensive, it’s just the fact that I bought it that makes me say… really girl?
In Our Own Voices, would like to extend an invitation for you to attend: 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference, Unity Through Diversity: The Power of Unity. This event will take place October 12-15, 2016 at the Desmond Hotel and Conference Center, in Albany, New York. The Power of Unity brings you towards a more holistic, inclusive and intersectional movement that includes advocating for social justice for the LGBT people of color communities. Continue reading 2016 National LGBT POC Health Conference (Albany, NY: October 2016)→
Well well well, here’s another one and another one. Yes I am pretending I am a rapper instead of a blogger… and what?
hits b-girl stance
Like most series on this blog, I haven’t written a KRead review in a while. But seeing that today is National Book Day, I decided to get back on the proverbial horse.
This is actually the second book I will be reviewing by Anondra “Kat” Williams. Way back when I read her first offering black girl love. For those who haven’t read it, it is an extremely sensual experience… hmm… that I might have to relive.
Fast forward five years to her newest work, Pat Greene: Her Story. I must admit, this book has been languishing in my Amazon Kindle queue for a while, but I am very happy I finally read it.
Plot Snapshot: The coming of age story of Pat Greene, a black lesbian everywoman, filled with love, loss and a little lust.